5 Reasons why it is so difficult to get started and how to fight it!
The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is today. – Chinese proverb
Why is it always so difficult to get started? You know what you have to do, but you just can’t seem to get going. Imagine if I had started this blog 2 months ago like I was planning to do, I would have had a lot more experience and exposure to my website and my dream business.
In this blog I am going to explain to you 5 things that keep us from doing what we need to do and how we can fight this.
Money, money, money…
Uggh don’t I know it! Money, money, money! It can be such a struggle trying to break through when have to worry about all the different things you have to invest in, to make it big. You want to buy that web design course, those self-help books, that awesome outfit that will make you feel like you can rock the world, rent and o my god I am never going to make it until the end of the month. Whoa calm down and focus. Your time spend on worrying is a waste of time. Instead of worrying you could actually be working on your project instead. Organise your finances at the beginning of the month, have a clear overview of what is happening. What you can and cannot do and then let it go! Then stop watching Netflix and get your cute bootie at the desk and start writing that blog. I love having things organised in my life and use of lot of planners and checklists to stay on track, if you feel the same have a look at these colourful planners right here.
Book suggestion: You are a badass at making money by Jen Sincero
Lack of confidence
Ever fantasied about your amazing plan, but then when you have to put it into action you start doubting the plan. Is it really possible, you ask yourself? One thing that is very important when you lack confidence, is that you have to set yourself clear and specific goals that are realistic. You can you use the SMART method. Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Timely goals. You need smart goals because if you keep your plan vague, say I wanne be rich in the future, it will never happen.
What if you lack confidence in yourself? One thing you should know is that you are good enough! You can do it! I know this from experience, I have put off this blog for way to long thinking I am not a good writer, however if you never start how will you ever get experience? So I told myself I am good enough and gave myself permission to fail. Failure sucks, but it does teach you very valuable lessons. Often we want our project is to be perfect, and we wait for perfection before we put out into the world. But waiting for perfection is like waiting for snow to fall in the Sahara dessert. Just start and with time you will grow and get better every day!
So don’t talk yourself down, just get started, even if it is just a tiny wee baby step. You can do it!
The Fear of realising our dream
In my favourite book ‘The Alchemist’ by Paulo Coelho he mentions this obstacle of the fear of realising your dream. When we work so hard towards our plan and then we finally get there! You got what you wanted and suddenly you feel guilty. What about all the other people that didn’t get it, did I deserve this? Don’t let this ruin your dream. Don’t forget you worked hard for this, all the long hours you’re worked, and you overcame obstacles and kept fighting for it. You are worth it! Don’t give up now that you finally made it.
So here we go, we are going to spend an afternoon writing. I grab my coffee, got the laptop ready, tunes are on and… oww look at that, my sister just commented on that picture I posted, ow the new episode of Outlander is out, gotta watch that…
Focusing, it is a difficult thing. Nowadays there are so many distractions it is difficult to stay focused. What has really helped for me is the Pomodoro Technique. This technique is a time management method developed by Francesco Cirillo in the 1980’s. You use a timer to break down work into intervals of 25 to 30 minutes. Then you take a short break and so on. I really like this method because for half an hour I work as hard as I can, put my phone on silent and just focus on the project. In my mind it is only 30 minutes and after wards I can take a break happy days. I’ll reward myself by watching 15 minutes of Outlander, check my phone etc. You will be amazed by how much you can get done in half an hour. And once you have made the start, your project is in motion and you are much more likely to continue and finish it.
Fun fact: the reason it is called Pomodoro Technique is because Francesco used a tomato shaped kitchen timer.
Dreaming to much
Say what? Nowadays all people talk about is visualising your dreams. So what is the catch here? Dreaming is still important however in your fantasy, your success is happening right away. Our fantasies don’t show us the obstacles that we are going to encounter in real life. All it shows us is our success, make us feel like we already reached our goal and this can actually leave us less motivated in real life.
The important thing is the ‘Now’ and enjoy the progress and not focus on the end goal. As Matthew McConaughey beautifully says in this video. ‘Try to stop making the daily labour a means to a certain end. Try and make the doing of deed be the reward itself. Joy is in process, it is under construction, it’s in constant approach’
My point is keep dreaming but live in the now and everyday enjoy what you do and don’t put too much pressure on the end goal. Realise there will be obstacles along the way, and those will just make you stronger. Enjoy the route toward your goal
Sometimes it’s the journey that teaches you a lot about your destination - Drake
Now that you have read about 5 reasons why it can be difficult to get started and how to fight that, girl, get out of your head and stop thinking about what you need to do and actually do it!